FAMILY DISPUTES PARALEGALS SERVICES IN TORONTO

Any conflicts that occur within a family–between husbands and wives, parents and children, between siblings, or with extended families (grandparents, aunts, uncles, etc.)

Causes Of  Family Disputes

Family conflict develops when members of a family have different beliefs or viewpoints, when people misunderstand one another, when someone gets hurt feelings and develops resentment, and when miscommunication leads to mistaken assumptions and subsequent arguments.

Family stages often cause conflicts. These include learning to live as a new couple (cohabiting or married), having the first baby and any subsequent children, sending a child to school, dealing with adolescence and experiencing the passage of young persons into adulthood. Each of these stages has innumerable possibilities for conflicts.

The other times conflicts occur is during changes in family situations. Separation and divorce create conflict, as do moving to a new town, starting a new job or starting a new school. Starting to commute long hours to and from work creates family conflict. Changes in financial circumstances also are life changes that can create conflicts.

Through time, the needs, values and opinions of family members can change and create conflicts. Change can occur between spouses, between parents and children, between siblings, between nuclear families and in-laws, and among extended family members. The above information is from the website of the Department of Health and Human Services, Government, Canada. From the Livestrong Foundation, there is additional information. Expanding on some of the causes of conflicts, one of the most common is money. The conflict can be not having enough money to meet expenses, competition for control of the money between spouses or partners, and disagreements about how to spend money.

Disagreements about types of child discipline cause conflicts. Parents can become polarized into the good parent and the bad parent, or the disciplinarian and the comforter. Such divisions are unhealthy for parents and children.

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Sibling rivalry can cause conflicts, such as jealousy leading to teasing, competition, or verbal and physical abuse. If a parent favors one child, there are even greater conflicts. Sibling rivalry is normal provided it is contained by parental intervention and not damaging to the development of any of the children.

In terms of in-laws and extended families, problems arise if family members other than the nuclear family or blended family are intrusive into family matters. In these instances, conflict is inevitable, especially since boundaries and values differ significantly from person to person and family to family.

Children in kindergarten or first grade are vulnerable to moves because they are already in the process of separating from their parents and adjusting to school. Moving might precipitate these children regressing to more dependent relationships with parents.

Because of the increasing importance of peers, teens and preteens have even more problems moving. They might not talk to parents about their distress but might become depressed, anxious, withdrawn, rebellious or aggressive. If there is disagreement between parents about moving, their conflicts will affect the teenagers and children.

There are additional conflicts between extended family members and nuclear family groups. Common problems include relatives who wear out their welcome by staying too long. Then there are relatives who visit too often. Conflicts also can arise about relatives who call too often or too infrequently.

Interfering relatives who meddle in other people’s lives can occur among extended family members or in-laws. It is not unusual for families to have interfering relatives. Further information concerning conflicts with relatives can be found on

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Unemployment negatively affects families because of the ensuing financial hardships. An article from the University of Toronto Library reported on the effect of unemployment on automobile workers and their families. The results were about workers from a fairly well-off segment of blue-collar automobile employees, not workers from low paid-jobs.

The authors of this article believed results were negative considering that these workers were fairly well-off and the study measured hardships at the end of two years. This data demonstrated families were not prepared ahead of time to sustain periods of unemployment.

How To Resolve Family Disputes

Nobody expects to find themselves in a dispute especially within the family.

Matters can increase if disagreements become intractable and other family members take sides or fuel the dispute behind the scenes. The sooner the parties realise they are in a dispute the earlier they can begin to resolve the problems.

There are many things but if these things don’t work, it is wise to get support from someone who can help you work through the issues.

It is not always necessary to bring everyone to a meeting. Sometimes working through it yourself with professional help can enable you to find solutions you hadn’t thought of. Sometimes a dispute needs a legal ruling, such as child contact in families where there has been a history of violence and even then the legal ruling will not solve the conflict. It will just create an order which must be carried out by law and there may be residual resentment.

Sometimes the parties really do want to sort it out but they have exhausted everything they know how to do and in those cases getting support from a suitably qualified and experienced process server can unlock the problem and help everyone find a way forward.